Where has good ole’ fashion education gone?
Am I alone here or were things VERY different in the classroom, even from a few years go?
I don’t remember my teachers ever going easy on us.
I don’t remember ever being “buddy buddy” with my teachers.
AND I SURE DON’T remember my parents believing what
I have to say about that missing homework over my teachers.
On the rare occasion
(yes, you can label me somewhat of a “goody two shoes”)
that I did get in trouble I feared for the teacher’s phone call
because I knew it meant
Mama wasn’t going to be happy
and little Olive was going to be in SERIOUS trouble….
And not just take away my cell phone, ipad, ipod, and video games at the age of eight kind of trouble,
kind of trouble.
I knew the moment she hung up the phone that it was game over.
I didn’t have a fighting chance, it was time to raise the white flag because
my teacher was always going to win in our household.
So what changed?
If I had the opportunity to talk to all the parents of my past, present, or future students
I have a few things I would say to them.
1. Thank you.
Thank you for everything you do at home that positively impacts your son/daughter.
Thank you to those of you who take the time to tell your child you love them,
to provide them with what they NEED
(which is NOT the same thing as what they may WANT),
and thank you for trusting them in my hands for 8+ hours of the day.
2. We are on the same side.
If I discipline your child, it’s because he/she has a lesson they are still working on learning.
If I push your child, it is because I want them to show me on paper the potential I already see in their eyes.
If I give you advice, I am not trying to scold you or be your child’s parent,
I’m trying to give you the perspective of someone who sees your child through a different lens.
3. While we are talking about it… I am NOT your child’s parent.
Manners, how to practice proper hygiene, and/or supplying daily essentials
is NOT a part of my job description.
However, I have been known to teach a child (or hundreds)
to say please and thank you, no sir or yes ma’am,
how to brush their teeth or put on deodorant,
and buy them multiple pencils, erasers, and even backpacks.
I don’t do it because I have to, I do it
because when your son or daughter walk into my class
I vow to love your child as my own
and how I teach them, work with them,
and help mold them
is with as much effort as I would with my very own flesh and blood.
4. What the state requires of your child is not enough.
Teachers are given curriculum and objectives they have to cover.
It is nowhere near enough to set your child up for 100% success.
The educational system is the foundation-
experiences, life lessons, interactions, and YOU are their building blocks
around that foundation to help build them up into successful individuals.
5. We are not miracle workers.
Teachers feel like they hit the lottery if one of hundreds of their students
come back and tell them they made a difference in their lives.
We cannot affect them all in a magical way, but we CAN and WILL try our hardest
to make a positive and helpful impact on their lives.
It’s in our nature- we can’t fight it.
6. Take advantage of the resources we/the school gives you.
PTA, school events, extra work, conferences, email, etc.
It is there to HELP you… not to tell you WHAT TO DO
but to HELP YOU while you’re doing it (parenting).
We aren’t trying to push more on you,
we’re just trying to assist you in what you’re already doing.
Utilize it, don’t make more work for yourself.
7. I may not have my own kids but I can imagine it isn’t easy.
I am with 27 students for 8 hours a day and I go home ready for my pjs and my couch.
I am not sitting here pointing my finger at you and judging you.
Instead, I am looking at your child and helping PUSH them WITH you
and am begging for your support as I do.
8. It’s okay to admit your child may not be the next Bill Gates.
I cannot tell you how many parents FREAK out once their baby starts growing up
and they are no longer the smartest kid in the room.
It is OKAY!
Some of the students I’ve seen with the brightest futures
were NEVER viewed as the smartest kid in the room.
They are young, they have a LOT of growing to do….
let them do it.
9. What little Johnny and little Sally do at home
PROBABLY doesn’t match what they do at school.
I do not sit up at night looking to make up stories about what your child did that day
to annoy me or the other students.
If I did you wouldn’t have
extra curricular activities,
and I wouldn’t have a husband or a life.
Or a blog for that matter.
10. Your support and kind words mean the world to us.
Nothing makes me smile brighter than hearing positive feedback
from my students and their families.
Even if its years later.
Have you ever told your favorite teacher you’re thankful for what they’ve done for you?
Have you ever told your CHILD’S favorite teacher you’re thankful for what they’ve done for your child?
What do you think TEACHERS need to know from a PARENTS perspective?
Where has good ole’ fashion education gone?